Women facing their fears
Here are some fears women might face
in life.
The fear of growing old.
The fear of not being needed by your children.
The fear of not liking sex anymore.
The fear of your husband leaving you.
Many of these fears are forever imbedded
into us because we are women. As we grow older some
fears will become reality, and for most women they become
very hard to deal with as we get older.
Lets deal with the first one: The fear of aging
Every women must age, we have no choice in the matter.
we do things to improve ourselves, like diet , and excersize.
We sometimes thrive on keeping healthy and fit. It makes
us feel better inside as well as outside. It shows in all the
things we do and say as a women.
It makes a women feel good to catch a man
looking at them in public, even if she is a married women.
Women sometimes enjoy the attention, because it makes
them feel they still got what it takes to attract a man. When
we lose this in our lives we get very depressed and give
up on our self esteem and futher more ruin the chance we
have to build it up again.
If you are thinking about bettering your life
do it for yourself, not your man. Do it so it makes you feel
good. and you can really be proud of what you have
accomplished. Doing it for your man will put a bigger
burden on you and most likely make you fail at your task.
One thing you should remember is that it is never to late
for us to turn our lives around. It takes alot of will power
that at times seems so hard to find because we are looking
at the things we must give up to reach our goals.
If you could spend
one more day on earth with your
children or any of your loved ones, wouldn't it be worth
a 10 minutes workout a day ?
The fear of your children not needing you anymore
If
you have a good relationship with your children
they will always need you in thier lives. You might become
the grandmother of thier children someday.
When a adult child decides it's time to leave home,
then you must let them go, as through marriage or on
there own. If it is what the child wants then you should
stand by them even when they fail and want to return home.
It is very hard to see a child fail at something they want out
of life, but we should not be there to say " I told you
this would happen."
Children
have to have respect for the parent,
the parent in return has to have respect for the child. We
all made our mistakes in life and our child will make theirs
also. It is the process of learning and development.
To let our adult child know that we will be there is
enough , but if we use that as a stepping stone to return
home anytime they have a problem it is going to teach the
adult child that he or she has no responsiblity
of
working out there own personal adult problems.
I think the worst thing is to tell a child what
you would do in a situation. Leave options available so the
child can make up her own mind. This is showing the
the child how to learn responsibilty in
dealing with thier
adult life, and any problems that might evolve from
the thier decisions.
The fear of not liking sex anymore.
Every women reaches a point in her life where
she no longer wants to be itimate towards her spouse.
This is a very natural feeling to have. Our bodies
seem
to slow down a bit to the point where we no longer enjoy
it. Maybe it's just the mood we are in for that day. Maybe
it's because we had a long day. For what ever the reason is
you have the right to say no.
If
it becomes a habit to where you and your
spouse are fighting about it, then that is not good.
Maybe a trip to your doctor would help . He may talk
to you about ways to enhance it.
If
you let it go too long then you will lose the
ambition of doing it. You just won't care anymore.
I do beleive this is a form of depression, that a woman
finds easy to let it go then to keep it working . It does
make it difficult on the other spouse. Problems will
soon arise from it. You might even think your man is
cheating on you. You will be less trust worthy of him.
I do believe
that if a man loves you he will
accept that this is the way you are going to be forever.
This is a big part of the marriage. Keeping it alive and
well will add more love into the marriage for both of you.
You can grow old together and still enjoy being itimate
with each other, instead of being crabby for the rest of your
life and very depressed.
The fear of your husband leaving you.
Many women might think that thier husbands
might leave them for a younger woman, because you can no
longer fullfill the part of being his wife. Yes it does happen
in many marriages where the wife tries to make things better
but it is too late for changes for him. He wants out of the
marriage as soon as possible. You plead with him to stay,
to give it one more chance. You have now admitted that
you were the one at fault.
Way too many women
and men wait till the last
minute to make a marriage work when they should of
started a long time ago. All the hurt and anger has already
been implanted into the other spouse long ago, and in
most cases it cannot be turned around.
A marriage should
be the the art work from both
spouses. The pictures you paint together will be your
everlasting outcome of the marriage, whether it ends up
a happy marriage or where you both want to leave each other.
The picture you paint, you will have to live in. There is no
erasing of a painting because the paint has already been
set.
In other words you made the marriage what
you both
wanted it to be. You both must suffer from your decisions
that you have made throught out the marriage.
If you have a problem with your husband
tell him
today, don't put it off until tomorrow. Work together to
remove the problem. The more talk that goes on inside
of a marriage the more trust that is built up around you both.
Knowing what the other wants or needs are is the first step
in keeping the marriage open for discussion. Trusting
each other is a hard thing to do. Building trust is the
most hardest thing to do. It is built on love, devotion,
honesty, forgiveness and the ever lasting hard work.
